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    Monday, June 30, 2008

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    Well, the big news on our front is that Dalynn is pregnant. Let me just say that we were doing everything we could to not become pregnant! As a matter of fact, Dalynn was going to have Mirena put in this month. Mirena is an IUD that also has a low dose of birth control. It's effective for 5 years.

    That 5 years part makes me wonder at the timing of all of this. As in, this is the Lord's timing, and not our own. Both of us had been thinking, privately, that 2 was enough. We also had both stated that we didn't want a 3rd while Cole was undergoing treatment. Combine all of that with a birth control that is effective for 5 years, and perhaps we never would have had another child. It's easy to get into a frame of mind when complacency is an option.

    To say that we were shocked is an understatement. I believe "floored" is more appropriate. Dalynn recovered faster than I did, though. It took me about a day to get over the shock of it all. It certainly didn't fit into any of my plans for our family right now. We certainly didn't need to borrow trouble...

    But, trouble is what this baby is not, and I've come to accept that. The logistics of it all are still prone to make me feel like the bottom has dropped out from underneath me, but we have 8 more months to begin coping with all of that.

    When Dalynn told Cole that "there's a baby growing in Mommy's belly", Cole responded with the statement, "A baby girl." He says "girl" like you would say "grill", it's quite cute. Logan has been vary tacit on the situation, though. We wonder if he's already lamenting the loss of his position as the baby...

    Speaking of Logan, he's walking, now. And I mean, walking. He can motor around the house and has started playing chase with Cole and I. Normally, he's the chaser, as he hasn't quite figured out how to be an effective chasee. He still hasn't figured out how to stand up without something to lean on, but once he's up, he's off.

    It's quite interesting to see how differently our children are developing. By this age (10.5 months) Cole was talking, but Logan isn't. I think he has a total of 4 words: "bye", "momma", "ba-ba" (bottle) and "dada". "Dada" he says very rarely. Conversely, Cole didn't walk until 13 months, while Logan has been walking for 2 weeks. So, in that regard, Logan is more advanced physically than Cole was. All the differences are quite fascinating.

    Finally, discipline has become some kind of monumental feat. On the weekends, when I'm around all day, I feel like I do nothing but discipline (mainly Cole). Dalynn feels like she spends all of her time disciplining. If 5 minutes go by without me having to say something, it's quite unusual.

    I think the difficult thing for us, and something we haven't figured out how to balance, is how to draw the line between being in treatment and being 2. We want to have grace if something is being caused by being in treatment. If Cole is just feeling run-down due to his chemo we don't want to drag him around the city. If he's cranky for the same reason, we would prefer to allow him to take a nap.

    On the other hand if he's being demanding because he's 2, well, we want to nip that in the bud. It's just that often times, it's difficult to figure out which one is which. What makes it more difficult is that Cole is learning how to manipulate us! In the middle of being disciplined, he'll tell us, "I hurt!" or "I'm tired!". He doesn't, not really, but it's hard to be discerning enough to know when he's pulling the wool over our eyes.

    I've never raised a 2 year old before, so I have no real frame of reference. I can't say for sure that raising a 2 year old in treatment for cancer is more difficult (though my hunch is that it is), but I can certainly say that raising a 2 year old in treatment for cancer is more confusing!

    11 comments:

    Anonymous said...

    WOW!!! is all I can say. I can't believe it.. Dalynn I can imagine how shocked you would be..Congrats guys and I'll be praying for you!!!
    Nikki Healy

    Eric and Lindsay said...

    Congrats guys! That is so exciting!

    Langston-Family said...

    Hey guys, Heather and I are both excited and praying for you. We know, in time, God's grace is more than sufficent. I will speak to you soon.

    Shelley said...

    "Children are a gift from the Lord, a reward from Him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them." Ps. 127:3-5
    Thanking God today for this blessing in your family. Know we are still praying for you all.
    Love, Shelley and family

    Michael.Rollins said...

    Shelley, that's the exact scripture that keeps coming to my mind. I just couldn't find it cause I thought it was in Proverbs...

    Thanks!

    Kline Family said...

    I agree with Nikki- Wow! Congrats though, I'm excited for you both.
    God's ways are definitely not ours!

    Kay Dee

    Michael.Rollins said...

    Thanks, Kay Dee!

    How're you guys doing? How's Williamsburg? Do you and Scott want to come with us to Watercountry USA on Dalynn's Birthday (July 14)? We're going sans chilluns. That's right in your neck of the woods, I think.

    Rebecca Franklin said...

    Oh goody, another cute baby to take pictures of... I was told to start setting aside all my cute girl clothes :o) Congrats!

    Michael.Rollins said...

    Hah, yeah, I can imagine who that edict came from! My mom is convinced that it's a girl, but my dad and brother (Todd) are pretty sure it's a boy. I'm more inclined to side with my dad and brother. Of course, Cole thinks it's a girl, too, so we'll have a feel for Cole's prophet abilities in short order!

    I'm not about to turn down our first offer of girl clothes, though. So, go ahead and stock-pile.

    Rebecca Franklin said...

    Oh goody, another cute baby to take pictures of... I was told to start setting aside all my cute girl clothes :o) Congrats!

    Eric and Lindsay said...

    Congrats guys! That is so exciting!